Now, I’ve written about the struggles of dating for trans women before, but we’re going to focus on the biggest dating platform, and most well known: Tinder!
For those who do not know: Tinder is an online dating and geosocial networking application. In Tinder, users "swipe right" to like or "swipe left" to dislike other users' profiles, which include their photo, a short bio, and a list of their interests.
Now, this is okay, and frankly an amazing idea - And the tinder component I agree with the fact that it is an amazing company, who are good at managing their platform. But on their platform there are a lot of bad people. Or people who aren’t their for love - Mainly women who want someone to date, and men who want sex. It’s a rough business for sure. Now imagine being a transgender woman, and men swiped on you just because you look like you have a vagina - because this person, obviously not all are like this, but they swiped on you without reading your about me saying “Transgender woman/female” and you talked to them for a while thinking they knew, but then he finds out. It puts you in a sad situation, especially if he or she is rude to you and gets mad at you for their own mistakes and ignorance. That’s the main problem, but it doesn’t end there.
Tinder supports trans dating on their site, but they do not have specific areas and main options for transgender people to swipe on each other - When tinder can very well do this, and profit and benefit from it greatly. So transgender women get mixed in with men or women, causing a lot of confusion. With this comes hate as well, you can’t avoid that part. And having your dating profile shown publicly to homophobic people, or trolls - Does not usually end well. This is what makes the tinder platform a massive drive away for transgender people, male or female. In reality it’s sad, and how trolls or people who are hateful laugh at their actions, or think they are heroic/good for it. So tinder makes this toxic environment for transgenders, because they make contact with people who mistake them to be biologically female. I think tinder is good, But my personal take is if you are a transgender; Do not use tinder
If you are looking for a good and decent TS dating site, then why not join MyTransgenderCupid?
Written by Diane Fodor - Diane is a 21 year old Trans women from Canada. She has a passion for writing, reading and books.