{"id":7596,"date":"2017-01-06T16:18:00","date_gmt":"2017-01-06T16:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blogs\/?p=7596"},"modified":"2024-01-16T15:07:15","modified_gmt":"2024-01-16T15:07:15","slug":"13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"13 things to know before dating a trans woman"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span class=\"su-dropcap su-dropcap-style-simple\" style=\"font-size:2.5em\">Y<\/span>our date will not end well if you refer to your date as a tranny or shemale. It\u2019s offensive and even if joking, it is never respectful and never a civilized conversation, it\u2019s just down right rude!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#1_Dating_a_Trans_woman_is_just_like_dating_anyone_else\" >1. Dating a Trans woman is just like dating anyone else.<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#2_Know_what_trans_means\" >2. Know what trans means.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#3_Sexuality_and_gender_are_separate_things\" >3. Sexuality and gender are separate things.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#4_I_did_not_transition_to_sleep_with_men\" >4. I did not transition to sleep with men.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#5_Be_open_about_who_you_are_and_what_you_want\" >5. Be open about who you are and what you want.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#6_Try_not_to_be_overly_fixated_on_genitals\" >6. Try not to be overly fixated on genitals.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#7_Try_not_to_be_overly_fixated_on_her_transness\" >7. Try not to be overly fixated on her transness.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#8_She_is_a_girl\" >8. She is a girl.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#9_So_treat_her_like_you_would_treat_a_girl_Any_girl\" >9. So treat her like you would treat a girl. Any girl.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#10_Fancying_her_does_not_make_you_gay\" >10. Fancying her does not make you gay.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#11_Be_educated\" >11. Be educated.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#12_Being_trans_is_not_a_secret\" >12. Being trans is not a secret.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/13-things-you-should-know-before-dating-a-trans-girl\/#13_Know_that_she_is_beautiful_and_you_are_lucky_to_have_her\" >13. Know that she is beautiful and you are lucky to have her.<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Dating_a_Trans_woman_is_just_like_dating_anyone_else\"><\/span>1. Dating a Trans woman is just like dating anyone else.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It requires the same level of respect, empathy, and love you should show anyone. If you have dated a human being before, then you already have <a href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/trans-dating-dos-and-donts\/\">everything you need to date a trans woman<\/a>. If you haven't dated a human being before\u2026 go and live your life!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Know_what_trans_means\"><\/span>2. Know what trans means.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I am a trans girl, which means that the gender assigned to me at birth was incorrect. The doctor incorrectly assumed that having a penis when I was born made me a boy, when gender in fact comes entirely from inside your mind. Unlucky for me, at a few seconds old I had not gained enough of a mastery of the english language to protest his decision, so instead I probably soiled myself and fell asleep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Sexuality_and_gender_are_separate_things\"><\/span>3. Sexuality and gender are separate things.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I personally identify as pansexual, I have dated boys, girls, and others on the lovely gender spectrum. I am really proud of my sexuality, and I believe being open like this makes the world a more exciting place to live. But this leads me on to\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_I_did_not_transition_to_sleep_with_men\"><\/span>4. I did not transition to sleep with men.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In fact, being trans has absolutely nothing to do with sexuality. We've passed 2015, so it's officially the future now (ask Michael J Fox!) so please do not assume what someone's sexuality is, based on how they look. Base it on the signals they give you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Be_open_about_who_you_are_and_what_you_want\"><\/span>5. Be open about who you are and what you want.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We live in 2017, a strange, crowded, and anonymous world. I don't know if you are a sociopath with no friends, whether you are hiding a family or if you are openly transphobic and plan to hurt me. Letting me get to know you before we're alone together will make me feel safe!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Try_not_to_be_overly_fixated_on_genitals\"><\/span>6. Try not to be overly fixated on genitals.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What did I say before about it being the future? Some girls have dicks, some girls don't, and some are in-between\u2026 deal with it. In fact, when was the last time you approached a girl on the dance floor because of the shape of their vagina? Spoiler, you haven't.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Try_not_to_be_overly_fixated_on_her_transness\"><\/span>7. Try not to be overly fixated on her transness.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you do, she's gonna find your date extremely boring indeed. Chances are, if she wanted to educate you and chat about trans things, she wouldn't be at dinner, she'd be writing an article for Cosmopolitan instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_She_is_a_girl\"><\/span>8. She is a girl.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">She is not a half girl, or a quarter girl, regardless of what she looks or acts like. In fact any girl, trans or not, can look or act in any way she likes, and she is still a girl, get it? Good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_So_treat_her_like_you_would_treat_a_girl_Any_girl\"><\/span>9. So treat her like you would treat a girl. Any girl.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That means if you would pay for a girl's meal (how quaint!) pay for this date too, if you would complement a girl, compliment on this date too, the list goes on! The bottom line is you're dating a girl, end of. By the way this goes even if you are a girl! For example, no matter how small or large you are compared to your&nbsp;<a data-wpil=\"url\" data-wpil=\"url\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com#TRPLINKPROCESSED\/\">trans date<\/a>, everyone likes to be the little spoon once in a while, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Fancying_her_does_not_make_you_gay\"><\/span>10. Fancying her does not make you gay.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a data-wpil=\"url\" data-wpil=\"url\" href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com#TRPLINKPROCESSED\/\">Dating a trans girl<\/a>&nbsp;makes you straight, lesbian, or whatever sexuality you already are. I can't tell you how many times I've caught myself consoling a guy I don't even know on a night out, just because I told him that I was trans, and now he's worried he's gay. Honestly, don't be that guy. If you are the dude who treats me like the girl I am, regardless of history, that's cool. And you never know, I might see you again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Be_educated\"><\/span>11. Be educated.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By that I don't mean be a Nobel Prize-winning physicist, I mean you should have a basic knowledge of what transgender means. Do a quick web search and spend 15 minutes reading about concepts such as <a href=\"https:\/\/mytransgendercupid.com\/blog\/understanding-gender-dysphoria-guide\/\">gender dysphoria<\/a>, pronouns, cisgender, non-binary. That should get you started.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Being_trans_is_not_a_secret\"><\/span>12. Being trans is not a secret.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I didn't tell you because I want your approval, I'm not begging for your acceptance, and I'm definitely not warning you. The only reason you know is because it was an integral part of a witty and amusing anecdote I was telling! Some girls may on the other hand not want to tell you that they are trans. That's because it's easier not to sometimes, as stupidity and misunderstanding will inevitably ensue if you out yourself to the wrong people. In this case she told you because she trusts you, so act like you deserve that trust, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13_Know_that_she_is_beautiful_and_you_are_lucky_to_have_her\"><\/span>13. Know that she is beautiful and you are lucky to have her.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And if you are respectful and loving to her and her identity, she is lucky to have you too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>our date will not end well if you refer to your date as a tranny or shemale. 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