So, you have been reading part 1 of the 13 basic principles of dating a transgender woman and now we are back with the second part of basic rules on how to TS dating works.

Again, these rules don't drive anybody into the rigid framework. We just give some little tips to make your dating experience nice and successful.

7. Avoid asking her old/real name

Even if you're very curious to know the name given to her at birth, it's not a good idea to ask about it. Just accept the fact that her second name is still her real name and everybody has a right to take another name if they are dissatisfied with the choice of their parents. At the same time, phrases kind as “I'm trying to know you better” is not an explanation for such a question.

8. Ask what her plans for the future

Most of the girls set big goals and see no obstacles to reaching them. Some of them seek to achieve an increase in the corporate ladder. Another dream is to travel all over the world. These are the things that most accurately describe them and that they want to discuss.

9. “Passable” or “feminine” are not compliments

If you want to say something nice and pleasant, avoid complimenting how successfully they passed a gender transition. It's long and requires lots of efforts process which they did for themselves first of all and therefore they don't need anybody's approval.

10. Make compliment her general look as a woman

“You look absolutely gorgeous today” is perfectly suited as a compliment. You would nobody hurt also saying: “Your hair looks amazing.”

11. Do not ask them if they ever worked in the sex industry

It's a pretty private topic which is better not to touch until the girl is ready to discuss it. Most people don't know how it's hard to be transgender and what obstacles trans girls face searching for a decent job. However, not all girls step on this path – they also go college and afterward can be financially supported by their families until they find a regular job. In any case, asking about such things your words may sound offensive and stereotyping towards the girl.

12. She is not a fetish

If you saw some wild sexy stuff in porn and now you think that you love trans girls then you came to the wrong conclusion. Because you are mistaken if you think that they will make all those things you've seen and liked in that video. Don't make from trans girl an object of your desires or fetish, in other words.

13. Think also about cisgender women

The easiest way to know if are you moving in the right direction with the trans woman, is simply thinking first: “Would I act the same towards a cisgender woman?” or “Would I ask a cisgender woman such things?” If the answer to these questions is “No”, then just don't do that. Transgender women deserve the same amount of respect and acceptance as any other people in the world.

We hope this advice were helpful to you and in case you were wondering where could you find a trans girlfriend, then just join MyTransgenderCupid right now.

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