Safety checklist: from chat to meet
For a first meet, choose a public place, keep it time-boxed, use your own transport, tell a friend, and follow our dating safety tips.
Keep personal info gradual: protect your last name, home address, workplace details, and financial info until trust is earned. If someone pressures you to move off-platform quickly, asks for money, gift cards, or travel fees, or tries to create urgency, treat it as a red flag and step back.
Boundaries are part of respect: you can say no, slow things down, or end a chat without explaining yourself. Use block and report tools when behavior feels pushy, manipulative, or inconsistent with the profile you’re seeing.
Do
- Share basics slowly and keep private details private at first.
- Verify consistency in photos, story, and tone before meeting.
- Keep first meets in public and end early if it feels off.
- Tell a friend where you’re going and when you’ll be back.
- Use in-app tools to block or report pressure or manipulation.
- Trust your instincts and prioritize comfort over politeness.
Don’t
- Don’t send money, gift cards, or pay “fees” for any reason.
- Don’t share home address, passwords, or financial information.
- Don’t let anyone rush you off-platform or into secrecy.
- Don’t accept guilt-trips, threats, or persistent boundary pushing.
- Don’t meet in private locations for a first meet.
- Don’t ignore repeated inconsistencies in their story.