Online safety and meet-up basics
Choose a public place, keep it time-boxed, use your own transport, tell a friend, and review our dating safety tips before you meet.
Keep privacy gradual: share only what’s needed early on, and be cautious with personal identifiers, workplace info, or real-time location. Any request for money, gift cards, travel fees, or “urgent help” is a clear stop sign—no matter how convincing the story sounds.
If someone pressures you to move off-platform fast, pushes boundaries, or tries to guilt you into escalating, treat it as a red flag and step back. You’re allowed to say no, end a chat, and use block/report tools when something feels off—comfort and consent are the baseline.
Do
- Keep early chats respectful and focused on shared interests.
- Meet in public and keep the plan short if it’s your first time.
- Share personal details gradually and only when trust is earned.
- Use your own transport and keep control of your schedule.
- Tell a friend where you’re going and when you’ll check in.
- Trust your instincts and pause if anything feels pressured.
Don’t
- Send money, gift cards, or “travel help” to someone you haven’t met.
- Share sensitive info early (address, employer, banking, or IDs).
- Accept off-platform pressure if you’re not comfortable yet.
- Let someone rush you into a private meet or an overnight plan.
- Ignore boundary-pushing, guilt-trips, or inconsistent stories.
- Keep engaging after clear red flags—block, report, and move on.