Avoid scams and stay in control
For a first meet, choose a public place, keep it time-boxed, use your own transport, tell a friend, and follow our dating safety tips.
Keep personal details gradual until someone has earned trust through consistency: avoid sharing full address, workplace specifics, or financial info early. If anyone pushes for money, gift cards, travel fees, or “urgent help,” treat it as a hard stop and move on.
Boundaries are a feature, not a mood: if the vibe turns pressuring, sexual too fast, or off-platform too soon, you don’t owe more explanation. Use block and report tools when needed, and keep your pace calm even if someone tries to rush it.
Do this
- Share personal details gradually as trust builds.
- Keep early plans public-first and easy to exit.
- Confirm basics like time, place, and expectations clearly.
- Watch for consistency across messages over time.
- Use the site’s tools if something feels off.
- Trust your instincts and step back without guilt.
Avoid this
- Sending money, gift cards, or travel fees.
- Rushing off-platform before comfort is established.
- Sharing your address or workplace details early.
- Accepting pressure, guilt, or emotional ultimatums.
- Ignoring repeated boundary-pushing or inconsistency.
- Meeting somewhere private for a first date.