Red flags, boundaries, and what to do next
This section covers red flags, boundaries, and what to do next so you stay in control from chat to meet. Choose a public place, keep it time-boxed, use your own transport, tell a friend, and review our dating safety tips.
Move slowly with personal details: share basics first, and keep sensitive info (workplace, address, finances) private until trust is earned. Never send money, gift cards, or “travel fees,” and treat any push to move off-platform fast as a red flag.
If someone pressures you, ignores boundaries, or flips into guilt tactics, step back immediately and keep your pace. In Taylor, keep first meets near main transit routes and busy public spots, and use block/report tools when something feels off.
Do
- Keep early chats inside the platform until trust is steady.
- Share personal details gradually and stay comfortable with the pace.
- Confirm basics before meeting: time, place, and a simple plan.
- Use your own transport and keep an easy exit option.
- Tell a friend your plan and check in afterward.
- Block or report quickly if something feels manipulative.
Don’t
- Send money, gift cards, or cover travel costs for someone you haven’t met.
- Share your address, workplace, or sensitive ID details early.
- Let anyone pressure you off-platform or into rushing a meet.
- Accept guilt tactics, threats, or “prove it” demands.
- Ignore boundary-pushing just to keep the conversation going.
- Stay in a plan that feels unclear—leave and regroup.